Starting Over

I dedicate this page to single mamas everywhere who are bravely jumping back into the dating scene. 

•       Dating in my 20's was so easy! College friends, work friends,  roommates, and going out every night. Guys were everywhere! Meeting people was easy back then. Fast forward 20+ years. This stuff is crazy! I have advice coming from every direction. Wear this outfit. Get Mani/pedis every two weeks,  haircut and color trends, dating sites, and of course the dreaded blind date from well meaning  friends! Ahhhhhhhhh! Stop! How am I supposed to find someone I get along with if I'm pretending to be somebody I'm not. Don't get me wrong I get my hair done ( two times a year).  I get my nails done in the summer and occasionally when I need to pick me up. I do hate shopping and these dating site are ridiculous. They deserve their very own page! 
• I used to say I did not have a "type".  I have found out that I do in fact have a "type" of man I tend to gravitate towards. This is a problem. I never really saw it as a problem before because I was the same type of person. I loved men who were witty, sarcastic, a little rough around the edges, and not looking for marriage. All those things still hold true. The problem is that at 40 these guys are single for a reason! A couple months is about as much as they can envision a relationship. Just because I do not see marriage in my future does not mean I don't believe in a commitment. So I give the stable guys a try. The nice guy who is divorced, responsible, grown up, and a true gentleman. They pay for the check, have ideas on where to go for dates, and even hold the doors ( yes men still do this) I was amazed too! They are truly perfect in so many ways.  So why am I always bored? If there is no sarcasm, no witty conversation, no banter, I can't get past the third date. Does a combination actually exist or am I doomed to date forever?